Friday, March 24, 2006

Apology Accepted

And I hope you've learned your lesson, mister.

(via Ezra)

24 comments:

Anonymous said...

Socratic in its sarcasm.

Anonymous said...

There was a time I was walking home with four friends during college. We had been shooting some pool, but since we were all 19 and 20 none of us had been drinking, but not for lack of trying. This was on Beacon Street in Boston, a somewhat well lit street and a bit narrow.

One the other side of the street there were two guys dressed in sports sweatshirts and baseball caps. They were talking, maybe staggering, the other way. As we neared them one of them yelled across the street, "Hey, guys, there better be some women in that group."

We just kept walking.

"Hey, faggots, did you hear me?" the guy shouted again. "Where are you women?"

"Ignore them," one of my friends said.

Next thing I know there was a lot of stars.

Then I was on the ground, and two of my friends were standing over me asking me if I was ok. My other two friends were chasing down the guys who had been yelling at us from across the street. I could feel something trickle down the side of my head.

I was told later that one of the drunk jerks across the street and thrown an beer bottle at us, and clocked me on the side of the head.

My friends never caught the two guys. We filed a police report but all we remembered were their clothes and they had short brown hair. Beacon Street is only somewhat well lit so we never saw their faces.

I was a victim of gay bashing and not even gay. Still have a scar.

Straight people can be pricks.

Anonymous said...

This letter bugged me all weekend, and I finally figured out why.

It wasn't the relentless portrayal of gay people as victims, though I have issue with that personally. I don't feel that my sexuality makes me a victim, though it does make me a target. I also don't believe that presenting ourselves as victims does much to further our cause in the eyes of the public. Mercy is scant these days, and the people we need to convince of our humanity tend to dehumanize victims to alleviate their own guilt, so it just leaves us stuck where we were.

What bothered me about the letter was the demonization of straight people. It's this sentence that caught my eye: "...yes, even when you beat the shit out of your wife the day after she caught you fucking the underaged babysitter, even when you tossed your 15 year old gay son out on the streets, even when I gladly pay very high taxes to send your kids to good schools and you cheat on yours."

Assuming that all straight people are the source of our problems is counterproductive at best, and self-destructive in all probability. The attitude that pervades this letter is that of "you did this to me, all of you" when the truth is, the ignorant and violent comprise a very small minority of any population. Accusing the whole group of their crimes is unfair.

We can't fight prejudice with prejudice. If we are insisting that straight people see us as human, as individuals, and judge us as such, then we have an obligation to do the same for them.

Left_Wing_Fox said...

I don't know if I agree with that, mrvisible, or at least not in this specific case.

Most people DON'T beat up suspected homosexuals in the locker rooms. Most people don't picket the funerals of homosexuals with "Burn in Hell" signs.

But a shade off from that are the mainstream politicians who attempt to minimize and restrict the rights of homosexuals through marriage bans, adoption bans, and allowing discrimination based on sexual preference.

It's the wide swath of people who buy into the watered down discrimination that gives these politicians the power to pass or maintain these discriminations. It's the folks who hide behind the jargon-filled excuses like "I just don't want them flaunting their lifestyle in my face" that give the politicians the power to allow discrimination. And that gives the REAL crazies the belief that what they are doing is accepted by the majority.

Folks who think that being gay is "strange" or "icky" might not change that opinion, but I think something like this can convince them that the rights and safety of a fellow human being are more important than their discomfort when the next dround of politically acceptable discrimination comes around.

Just my thought.

Anonymous said...

Straight people can be such cry-babies. Oops: some straight people can be such cry-babies.

Of course you didn't get to choose your side, but you sure do get to be part of how your side behaves. When was the last time you let a gay joke pass without comment? When was the last time you were with someone who used the word "faggot" disparigingly and you smiled? Still feel awkward about buying "homo milk"? Worry about how "gay" used to be such a nice word?

Do something today to make your side less homophobic.

Anonymous said...

It seems to me that Mr. Roald has done nothing, as an individual, to incite your contempt. For all you know, he's one of the straight people that fall right into your definition of what a good straight person should be; he puts gay-joke-tellers in their place, frowns at people who use the word 'faggot', buys his homo half-gals with his chin up and his chest out, and thinks 'gay' is still a very nice word.

What did your attack on him accomplish? If he is your ideal heterosexual, then he's probably wondering why he's bothered definding gay people all these years. And if he's not, guilt isn't a good way to create an active ally.

Think tactically. What will it take to get the mother of four to get up in the middle of her pastor's anti-gay harangue and walk out of church? What will convince the college football player to tell his teammates that telling gay jokes just isn't cool? What's going to convince the truck driver from Montana to vote against his local anti-gay constitutional amenment when he's in the voting booth?

It's not going to be a bitchy harangue about what they're not doing for us, that's for sure. That'll get us more enemies than friends. Friends are what we need, and you make those by... brace yourself... being nice to people.

Give people the benefit of the doubt, and they'll often surprise you by living up to your high estimation of them. Start by not assuming that all straight people are the problem, that the straight people you know are decent people who maybe haven't heard our side of the story. By the time they have, you may have won us an ally.

Start by assuming that they're the enemy, and where is there to go?

Do something today to make our side less heterophobic.

Anonymous said...

Penyakit ini umumnya muncul karena penderita mengejan terlalu keras pada saat buang air besar. Dengan mengejan terlalu keras, maka pembuluh darah di sekitar anus dapat melebar dan pecah menimbulkan infeksi dan pembengkakan yang berakhir pada masalah wasir atau ambeien tersebut.

Unknown said...

Penderita Penyakit kondiloma atau Kutil Kelamin yang telah terinveksi disarankan untuk segera melakukan pengobatan secepat mungkin sebelum Virus HPV penyebab kutil kelamin makin banyak berkembang biak di dalam sel darah makin lama dibiarkan akan memperparah kondisi organ vital karena kutil kelamin akan terus membesar sehingga terlihat seperti jengger ayam untuk penderita yang baru tertular kurang dari satu bulan biasanya akan lebih cepat ditanggulangi obat kutil kelamin Paling ampuh dari De Nature dan terbaik ada hanya di http://obatkutildikemaluan.blogdetik.com/ untuk mendapatkan informasi yang lebih jelas mengenai pengobatan kutil pada kelamin silahkan kontak langsung di nomer 0852 808 77 999 atau 0859 7373 5656 Bagaimana mengobati Ambeien itu sendiri. pengobatan yang terbaik untuk Ambeien adalah dari luar dan dalam sehingga Ambeien benar benar tuntas dan tidak akan kambuh lagi. obat Ambeien terbaik "Ambeclear dari De Nature" AlamiAdalah obat Ambeien herbal yang memang terbaik untuk mengobati Ambeien, dan sudah terdaftar di badan obat dan makanan (BPOM) dengan nomer registrasi POM TR: 133 374 041. terbuat dari bahan alami antara lain terdiri Daung Ungu, Mahkota Dewa dan Kunyit Putih.

Anonymous said...

cara yang alami menyembuhkan penyakit wasir ambeien secara alami dengan menggunakan daun ungu serta mahkotadewa aman untuk ibu hamil tanpa operasi cukup dengan menggunakan obat wasir herbal ambeclear terbuat

Anonymous said...

wasir ambeien bisa sembuh tanpa harus di operasi maupun injeksi cukup dengan obat wasir ambeien herbal ambeclear herbal de nature dari daun ungu serta mahkotadewa aman untuk ibu hamil

Unknown said...

Penyakit kencing nanah bisa disebabkan oleh beberapa faktor seperti seks bebas, penularan, virus hpv, lingkungan, gaya hidup dan lainnya, Maka dari itu kita harus waspada dengan penyakit kencing nanah ini, karena penyakit kencing nanah sangatlah berbahaya, Namun untuk anda yang menderita penyakit kencing nanah, maka anda tidak perlu khawatir,

Unknown said...

Berhati-hatilah anda yang suka berganti-ganti pasangan seks, karena sangat besar sekali kemungkinannya untuk terkena penyakit kencing nanah atau gonore maupun yang lainnya.



Unknown said...

Bagi anda yang sedang mencari obat herbal buat kencing nanah atau gonore, kami sarankan untuk memilih obat herba dari De Nature dengan nama Gang jie dan Gho Siah sebagai pengobatan alternatif tradisional alami untuk kencing nanah atau gonore.

Unknown said...

Berapa Harga untuk Obat Wasir Ambeien alami daun ungu AmbeclearAmbeien adalah gangguan atau penyakit yang terjadi pada saluran pencernaan manusia

Unknown said...

Bukan hanya pengobatan medis saja tapi ada juga pengobatan rumah alami yang dapat digunakan untuk menyingkirkan penyakit kutil kelamin ini. Intinya, karena kutil ini muncul di daerah yang sensitif, maka anda harus mencari pengobatan yang terbaik pada kulit Anda dan jika diperlukan juga dibantu dengan tenaga medis yang professional. Sebab dokter akan menjadi sumber informasi yang baik untuk mengobati penyakit ini.

Unknown said...

Kadang disertai
dengan sakit saat kencing, perih, organ intim terasa panas menyiksa,
gatal,..

Unknown said...

Sekitar Vagina Tumbuh Daging, Berbahayakah? Kutil Pada Kepala Penis mirip bunga kol atau jengger ayam, Merupakan Penyakit Yang diakibatkan Oleh Virus.Kutil kelamin, atau disebut juga condyloma acuminata, adalah kutil atau daging berwarna kulit atau keabuan yang tumbuh di sekitar alat kelamin dan

Unknown said...

Obat Ambeien Resep Dokter Ambeclear dari De Nature Ampuh Tuntaskan Ambeien Sampai Tuntas

Unknown said...

Ambeien bisa mengeluarkan darah(seperti invander salim yang terkena ambeien dan mengeluarkan darah)

Unknown said...

Sebelum kita membahas tentang pengobatan ambeien, dalam kesempatan ini
saya ingin menjelaskan sekilas tentang ambeien, agar kita semua bisa
memahami benar apa itu penyakit ambeien

Unknown said...

obat wasir, Adalah  Obat alami berkhasiat dalam bentuk kapsul yang berasal dari tanaman herbal seperti daun ungu, mahkota dewa dan kunyit putih, diberikan pada penderita jika penyakit masih dalam tingkatan stadium ringan

Unknown said...

manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur manjur

Anonymous said...

Wasir atau dikenal juga dengan ambeien merupakan salah satu jenis penyakit

Anonymous said...

yang sangat mengganggu. Ambeien atau wasir ini muncul..